Hey Your probably gonna notice the difference in authors while reading this post. For one theres gonna be a whole lot less shelling cuz joecant spell n I can!…. HAHA!Who am I lying to? I suck at spelling If I remember clearly i used to stay in class n read for spelling exams in corona while my mates used to play ten ten outside. Yeh this is prbly gonna b worse. Secondly, there mite b a few big words. I know, I just implied grammar is a challenge, so why am I using big words. Well the thing is I learnt big words, it’s the little ones like weird/wierd Icant spell. But u’ll figure it out. Theres one thing u will notice tho n that’s a striking similarity in our thinking… at least on this topic but for some reason he thinks I say it best (good luck with that)
So ya you might be wondering bout the topic of this post today some mite be thinking along the rite lines, other dirty minds mite be thinking along the road to hell. But yeh if you thot about it in the way im about to explain to you, you may very well be one step closer to answering the question. We often find ourselves neglecting this question which in all honesty might be the very thing that worries teenagers and human beings in general; at least when It comes to relationships. How “deep” do we really need to get with someone before we consider the person a “friend”. I can assure you tho if there is one word that has been used, cruised and abused its that word “friend”. Most times people don’t even kno what that word means. We bliv if we’v shared a moment with someone n shared something relatively personal in our lives with that person that person is now our friend. Well I must now utterly eradicate that thought from your mind n tell you how utterly false that is. The key component to a friendship is care. With care everything else follows… with care comes trust. You cant care bout someone n then spread their dirty secret bout how they got crabs or gonorrhea over the summer. No, that is not cool. People do make mistakes granted but there is an extent to which mistakes go. All types of relationships are complicated but there definitely has to be a mutual feeling of care. It might not be the same level but close enuf.
So ya I mite b going a bit of course but I just needed to get the requirements for a friend out there before I go into warning you on how not to get a friend (take time to let that sink in) First off most people suffer from mouth diarrhea. Yes, I said it. The sooner you admit it the better. we tend to tell people waaaaayy too much just cuz we think we have a connection or we are trying to get some sort of “emotional bond” with some guy we’ve been trying to land for a while. Well lemmi tell you something now. That’s utter crap. We only set ourselves up for disappointment. Why do you need to tell them so much.You tell them about your parents hu got a divorce or bout how your dad used to hit your mum and… the list goes on. First of all hu asked you… second of allhow do you know you can trust this person you met last week….Iv even heard people tell me “oh I can keep other people’s secrets but not mine” WTH does that even mean. You wud rather cause urself embarrassment than someone else? My best friend (and yes this is a friend well tested) once told me, that when you share even the slightest bit of persona l information with someone, you’re giving the person a piece of yourself. How much of u do u have to give out n hu too? Now lets be honest its mostly girls that are guilty of this offense, that’s not to say guys are not guilty as well but girls always have this thing where they want to b able to say and I quote “oh we are rili close… we r guys like that I can tell him anything”. Yeh rite! There is NOONE on this earth you can tell everything. Even if u shit in front of the other person( I know of such extremes so no exaggeration )n u feel your sooooo comfortable I assure you there is no one u can tell erthing. So what do you do? How do you do it? How do you know you can trust the other person?... Answer: Start slow, Let them at least know ur last name and know how to spell it( dated some guy for 8 months n he couldn’t spell my 4 letter last name). Let them know your personality before they know what helped build it. N know theirs too. And very importantly Never be the only one who has shared your life history and how you lived in a dump and all what not. I repeat Do not do this!Because if that person up and leaves you tomorrow they would have stolen a great deal from you.N that’s when we start hearing lines like “I invested so much emotionally” n “I trusted him/her” Trust me,it is not easy to b careful with friends Not at all. I mean I don’t even know what to call those people that aren’t friends n arent acquaintances either. But one thing I do know is it a gradual thing based on mutual care n trust. That trust which shud not be given to every tom, dick and joe hu says they like you! Lol Anyway people before I sign out, I just want to say that regardless of the negative and informative vibe gotten from this post, im a strong advocate of free but smart living. Don’t be afraid to trust (when the time is right) and definitely have lengthy conversations with new people. But most importantly be smart with how you make your “friends” and how much you think you can trust people. Cuz you could be saving yourself a whole lotta pain and disappointment. And do u kno y?
OFCOURSE YOU DO........because JOE SAYS SO!!!!!!
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